Don't go into war thinking that you're gonna win, then. Until server merges happen, and god knows when that's going to be, you're not going to win, especially if you're as outmatched as you say.

Think of it as a way to get free group coins, group contributions, and on Saturday, free seal scroll packs. That's the best you can do.

Although, I have to say, jumping ship and abandoning your group, especially as one of the strongest players, is a pretty *my thing to do.