Wind main will eventually have a cleanse. So you wait till they use chidori blade, then cleanse and since it resets mysteries you can start your own combo. Also having someone like Guy or Neji to interupt usually will save ur *.

Im a lightning main, and those things are usually what stop me.

well you waited for him to go 5 seconds? ofc he goes first. anyways. it's not areal time game... there's a stat called Initative which you improve my refining equips.. Higher initiative will go first. Assuming there' in the same battle order. 1-2-3-4. If you're using a skill, where your character is in position 2. and their character is in position 1. No matter the initiative, their character will go first.